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Safety behaviours….We all have them! Often learned in childhood we have our “go too’s” and “run from’s”. My dog gets anxious around dogs he’s not met…he’s been attacked a few times by dogs in the past so his learned safety behaviours….if in doubt….AVOID! What Wicket doesn’t know is some of these dogs are quite friendly…a new friend he’s now not going to meet. By avoiding his anxiety his safety behaviour generates isolation.The safety behaviours we deploy may not be as useful to us as we think… they might be restricting our lives…they calm our anxiety yes, but perhaps they prevent new experiences and relationships. My safety behaviour was not to climb Kinder Downfall!!! It can be hard work doing something differently but worth it.#anxiety#socialanxiety #safetybehaviour #mentalhealth #counselling#therapy#naturephotography#buxton#highpeak#selfcare #selfawareness ... See MoreSee Less

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Wouldn't it be great if there was a cure for anxiety!!! There are hundreds of thoughts and ideas of how to manage it. "What does it look like...what colour is it..?"These things probably won't happen anyway...""It's just your amydala's response which needs to be calmed..""Go to the end of your worrying anxious thoughts and you'll realise you can always find a way through....""Calming the anxious child within..."We can manage the symptoms and we can work with the causes but we know we'll feel anxiety again....does the tension of anxiety ever really go away...? I have no magic cure but I do know you are more than those anxious thoughts that may intrude upon you....You are bigger than your anxiety!...Courage has brought you this far...you are more than your fear....#talkingtherapy #counselling #findaway #anxiety #anxious #innerstrength#confidence#stress#naturephotography#buxton#highpeak#resiliance ... See MoreSee Less

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My dog gets anxious. His responses are…..‘fight’: bark at the person knocking on the other side of his front door, ‘flight’: he runs off away from dogs he sees as a threat, ‘freeze’: pant and shake as he hears the fireworks,‘flop’: he’ll cower behind me and become as small as he can if someone he’s unsure of wants to stroke him.Fight, flight, freeze or flop are our responses to stress. We feel stress in ways unique to us and sometimes our responses can change. We might need to work on our breathing or go for a run. We might find ourselves with less helpful responses…maybe self medicating, withdrawing, becoming aggressive, over eating or shopping too much...We can often work on our reactions and try to change them, make them more helpful to us…but the causes of anxiety just don’t go away. What if you could untangle yourself from the causes of anxiety(?)….We might have a fear of not having enough….fear of being good enough…fear of people not liking us… Counselling can help look at the roots of anxiety and wether we want to let them grow or start pulling them up and challenge them…If you’re struggling…I’m here to help, don’t hesitate but get in touch.#anxiety #fear #fearless #stress #mentalhealth #selfcare #resilience #strong #counsellingpsychology #talkingtherapy #buxton #highpeak #bekindtoyourself ... See MoreSee Less

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Hope. Hope is the life blood of any person....🤔 we can't live without it...what do you think...Where we have hopes for the future: relationships, circumstances, careers etc we often thrive! Perhaps if we thought nothing will change....or it will get worse....we are barely surviving and hope is faint. Psychologist believe a way to help our mental health is to do something good for someone else. To do a 'good deed'.Perhaps by doing something kind for someone we renew THEIR hope, that they're worth our attention....and we might get a buzz out of it and feed our hope too.... 😊Lovejoy counselling.co.uk#hope#mentalhealth#gooddeed#kindness#depression#buxton#highpeak#counselling#therapy#bekind ... See MoreSee Less

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This new year I wish you "Shalom"... meaning peace, wholeness, harmony, prosperity, completeness, tranquility and welfare. Shalom is Hebrew and it seems to encapsulate the meaning of mental and physical well-being so very well...so this is my prayer for you.www.lovejoycounselling.co.uk #mentalhealthmatters#wellness#wholeness#wellbeing#counselling#therapy#buxton#highpeak#naturephotography#shalom#newyear ... See MoreSee Less

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It's the most wonderful time of the year.......🤔We all have different assumptions, expectations and realities around Christmas time. For example, you could say the picture is of one dead tree, severed from it's roots and covered with lights that are using earth's precious resources...and another tree severely pruned (I suspect the tree is actually dying from looking at it in summer) surrounded by concrete.Or you could say ohh, how lovely....and appreciate the work and effort put into the pretty display to brighten up the dark days and nights.Working on our thinking does matter to our mental well-being... We do see the negatives but focussing on the positives is essential.Whatever Christmas will look like for you please be compassionate to yourself and seek help if you need it.www.lovejoycounselling.co.uk#Christmas #positivevibes #selfcompassion #talkingtherapy #therapy #counselling #highpeak #buxton #urbanphotography #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #depression #anxiety ... See MoreSee Less

1 month ago  ·  

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It's the most wonderful time of the year.......🤔We all have different assumptions, expectations and realities around Christmas time. For example, you could say the picture is of one dead tree, severed from it's roots and covered with lights that are using earth's precious resources...and another tree severely pruned (I suspect the tree is actually dying from looking at it in summer) surrounded by concrete.Or you could say ohh, how lovely....and appreciate the work and effort put into the pretty display to brighten up the dark days and nights.Working on our thinking does matter to our mental well-being... We do see the negatives but focussing on the positives is essential.Whatever Christmas will look like for you please be compassionate to yourself and seek help if you need it.www.lovejoycounselling.co.uk#Christmas #positivevibes #selfcompassion #talkingtherapy #therapy #counselling #highpeak #buxton #urbanphotography #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #depression #anxiety ... See MoreSee Less

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Is it okay to not be perfect? The picture is of the perfect mirror image in the perfectly smooth water.Maybe you would agree though, it’s not possible for us to be perfect….and yet…...…Society teaches us if we aren’t perfect we’ve somehow failed….or perhaps worse….we’ll be rejected and unloved….and we may start to feel shame…Its perhaps okay for OTHER people to not have a “perfect nose” or “messy eyebrows” “grey hair” but not me!!! 😱Perhaps we unconsciously think, “I have to be all singing and all dancing with EVERYTHING together…. Perfect face for the perfect clothes, perform perfectly in my job, have the perfect Christmas social life, the perfect Christmas dinner…..perfect present for the perfect person……The thought of ourselves, or what we do not being “perfect” might make us very stressed, tense or nervous so we deny it’s us….we don’t think like that….Perhaps we do put ourselves under a lot of pressure to “get it right” and get ourselves right(?).Maybe having the courage to see this in ourselves is the beginning of accepting ourselves with kindness and care… www.lovejoycounselling.co.uk#beingperfect #selfcare#selfawareness #selfacceptance #selfcompassion #counselling #therapy #buxton #highpeak #lifeismessy #mentalhealth #christmas #kindness ... See MoreSee Less

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Life’s CRAZY weather!!!!The weather seems to be batter us sometimes doesn’t it….We go outside armed with boots, waterproofs, umbrellas….My dog doesn’t care about storms…. I’m walking with my teeth gritted, hands stuffed in my pockets and head bowed to the headwinds rain and hail and he’s skipping around chewing sticks and sniffing every blade of grass!!!! Life gives us some emotional storms: a diagnosis, a partner leaving, a death, a job loss, a failed test, a disappointment….. It is so important to look after ourselves in those times of ‘storms’ and process what’s just happened or what is happening ….process the pain we feel…. It seems to take me ages to take my wet coat, boots and waterproof trousers off after a ‘storm walk’! It takes us time to process our feelings after a ‘storm’ in our life. The photo is life’s irony… I’d been walking in the howling storm, absolutely soaked…. Just as I got near home the sun came out 😂 and I took this picture. Storms do pass….talking about their effects on us or their aftermath can help www.lovejoycounselling.co.uk#lifesstorms #lessonsfromnature #selfcare #naturephotography #selflove #counselling #therapy #talking #buxton #highpeak #weather #bekindtoyourself ... See MoreSee Less

2 months ago  ·  

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Does the rock face say to the tree “I want to be….a tree”?🤔I think perhaps not…but I don’t know for sure! 😊My point is a tree accepts what it is, where it is. Perhaps we don’t accept ourselves so readily….We spend a lot of time comparing ourselves to others, maybe wanting what they have, striving, achieving, striving some more. The pervading sense of I’m not good enough………yet, but if I…….then I will be……just a bit more…….Sometimes drive is good! Striving, achieving, longing… It propels us, helps us. Sometimes though that propulsion can come from a place deep inside that says “you’re not good enough” you will be if…. but the truth is you may never reach a place where you think you are good enough, achieving enough, earning enough, attractive enough….Maybe that drive is not so beneficial to us… What if you celebrated YOU!….(🤔)….what if you were content with who you are…. self acceptance….Self acceptance might be a more powerful ‘driving force’ than self loathing..(?)….. Just an idea….To reach that place of self acceptance counselling can help…www.lovejoycounselling.co.uk#lessonsfromnature #mentalhealth #selfacceptance #therapy #counselling #selfcare #selfconfidence #acheive #naturephotography #selfcompassion #buxton #highpeak #selfcare #roaches #derbyshire ... See MoreSee Less

2 months ago  ·  

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DISTRACTION TECHNIQUE 🙏We all need to distract ourselves from different things and Buxton FC have given us the perfect 'distraction' technique from the humdrum of everyday life!!! We all need to celebrate our victories and achievements(!!!) and Buxton FC, you're AMAZING!!! Whether you're into football or not...this weekend is like Christmas day to many of us Buxton peeps! Good luck Buxton FC!!! We celebrate all your wins and THANKS FOR THE JOY!!!! 🙏😍💪👏🥳🤩www.lovejoycounselling.co.uk#therapy #counselling #distraction #buxton #buxtonfootball #buxtonstadium #match #highpeak #mentalhealth #achieve#mentalhealthawareness ... See MoreSee Less

2 months ago  ·  

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Unlikely Companions?? Heather making house in a rock….Life breaks….we break….we fall apart. We can feel worthless and broken, surrounded by pieces we think we can’t fix.Sometimes our brokenness is not our fault…. The art of kintsugi is repairing broken pieces of an object with gold.The broken pot has more value when gold glues it together…it has new life, purpose and beauty.Counselling may be the glue you need to sort through the brokenness and find beauty, purpose and hope again.The heather is exposed, battered and has little to protect it, it’s growing in brokenness but what a view it has! #counselling #therapy #kintsugi #broken #hope #buxton #derbyshire #highpeak #fixme #depressionawareness #anxiety #mentalhealth #roaches #lessonsfromnature ... See MoreSee Less

2 months ago  ·  

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SNOW!!!! 😱,😍or😡 How does it make you feel…? It makes me feel calm, peaceful and relaxed….but not everyone has the same response to snow….Our response to snow is learned. Snow can be a associated with calm, purity, cleanness, innocence, fun, sport, holidays and time snuggled up at home.However you may see snow as stark, cold, barren and bland…..disruptive, a threat or inconvenience.Implicit bias - or the way we perceive our world - can affect our mental health; we may perceive the world as quite friendly and feel safe or we may think everyone is a threat, the competition, to be avoided…. How we perceive our world can affect our mental health and increase anxiety, stress, depression and more….Understanding the way we’re ‘wired’ or our implicit bias can help us begin to see the world differently and be the beginning of positive change in our lives. Lovejoycounselling.co.uk#counselling #mentalhealth #internalbias #naturephotography #anxiety #stress #deppresion #buxton #highpeak #snow #lessonsfromnature #selfcare #therapy #beautiful #positivethinking ... See MoreSee Less

2 months ago  ·  

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Is your head messy?Mine can be! My thoughts can be like a tidy kitchen!…but mostly my thoughts are a messy kitchen!!! It often feels like I’ve got things sorted then a tornado powers through my kitchen and I have to attempt to tidy before the next tornado blast!!! You know it’s coming… you just don’t know when… so you’re on your guard watching out for it but then you turn your back and wham….the kitchen’s a mess again 😔 But is it okay to be messy sometimes….?😊Do you know, I think it might be. Often things outside our control, intrusive thoughts and circumstances impact our mental health and then ‘we tidy up’. Sorted! Sometimes though we may need a hand to sort out the ‘kitchen’ someone to help us know where to start sorting and cleaning. I’m here to help if you don’t have someone to support you while you ‘get things tidy again’. Btw…the tree in the photo(?) it seems to accept mess and unexpected intrusions as part of living…and don’t you think it’s Beautiful(?)…🤔…..Lovejoycounselling.co.uk#Counselling#therapy#mentalhealth #gethelp #lifeismessy #naturephotography #buxton #highpeak#cantcope ... See MoreSee Less

2 months ago  ·  

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Keep those winter blues at bay!! We need lots of natural sunlight to stay healthy!Daylight improves our serotonin levels which boosts our mood and lowers our anxiety. Sunlight also helps our bodies absorb vitamin D which keeps our bones strong, decreases the risk of heart disease, weight gain and cancer!! So get outside even though it may feel like hard work! or sit in as much daylight as you can to improve your physical and mental health! #seasonalaffectivedisorder#depression #anxiety#sleep#healthylifestyle#winter#daylight#mentalhealth#therapy #counselling #buxton #highpeak#whaleybridge#chapelenlefrith #derbyshire #getoutside #vitamind ... See MoreSee Less

2 months ago  ·  

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